I know many single people dread this holiday as it serves as a reminder of their relationship status (or lack thereof), but it's always been one of my favorites. Today is a day about love, period. No one said it has to be about a certain type of love. Love is amazing and not exclusive. So regardless of your relationship status, you are entitled to celebrate today.
Rather than creating a new post today, I wanted to share one I wrote last Valentines Day but never posted:
I have always been single on Valentines Day, but I have never been alone.
When I was in high school, I wanted to get married at 21, on Valentines Day (how cheesy, I know) and on a Saturday. So naturally, when I looked at the calendar and saw that on Saturday, February 14, 2015 I would be 21,I figured it was destiny. Well, a few years later my wedding day came and went. It was great and all, but I didn’t have a groom…
So according to my 15-year-old self, I should be celebrating my one-year wedding anniversary today. Instead, I’m sitting alone in my house writing you this letter. I am not celebrating my anniversary and I did not spend today with my boyfriend (cause he’s not here, as in he doesn’t exist) but I certainly am not lonely today.
My Valentines weekend was spent with my girlfriends, some cupcakes (of course) and long talks about Jesus. It was wonderful.
To be honest, I am so happy today is not my anniversary. I could not imagine being married right now in my life. I love my life and today I was not reminded of what I lack, but rather what I have.
I am currently in an amazing relationship with Jesus and though I fail Him constantly, His love for me is so consistent, so merciful and so satisfying. We had a wonderful morning together today as I rested in His presence and we talked about how far He has brought me since my wedding planning days.
I am blessed abundantly with the women in my life. They encourage me so much and in the moments I struggle they point me back to my source of strength. I am so thankful for the belly laughs, the support, the tears, both good and bad, the long talks about our campus crushes, our favorite girl from the Bachelor, how chocolate just fixes 98% of our problems, and our latest spiritual revelation. I know that years down the road when college is over and we all have families of our own, separated by states and hours, we will think back to these precious moments; when we spent Galentines day together and life was great. I refuse to take these moments for granted.
On a side note, another thing I am thankful for today is just chocolate. Praise the Lord. Amen.
So if February 14th is single’s awareness day for you and you despise this holiday, I understand. Sometimes it can be hard to walk through the red and pink aisle at Target and just want a lumberjack bearded man to give you flowers and a teddy bear the size of a small child. However, I encourage you to change your perspective. Regardless of your relationship status, you are loved today. No amount of cupcakes can satisfy the longing in your soul to be loved, even if you do receive them from your lumberjack bf. Only the Creator of your soul holds the power to satisfy, and He will.
You are loved, you are cherished and you are not alone. Don’t fear singleness. It is not a disease, a life sentence, or your identity. This season truly is what you make it and for me it has been one of my favorites.
You don’t have to be in a relationship to love or be loved, you already are.
So go buy yourself a child sized teddy bear and some flowers, you deserve it.
You are the recipient of a perfect, everlasting love. You are pursued, wanted and loved, today and everyday.
"I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself."-Jeremiah 31:3
Happy Valentines Day ❤
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